The Power of Struggle
This blog is dedicated to someone who is struggling right now - whether it’s from a strained relationship, losing your job, or just having a bad day. Each of us has our own story, and if this one resonates with you - you are not alone
Two and a half years ago, my marriage imploded in front of my face. Very quickly, I had to make the decision to leave my husband, our life, our apartment, and go out into the world very alone. For years I was the breadwinner, and held on to jobs that I hated because I felt like I had to. All of a sudden, I was faced with paying for a divorce attorney, first month’s rent and a deposit, buy all new furniture, and try to figure out my life by myself.
I was working a job I liked, but knew it wouldn’t be forever. Now that I was on my own, I knew I had to put myself first and make this new life work for me instead of me working for it. I saved my money, paid off my divorce by myself, and jumped into my brand new life. I decided to put my career before (almost) everything else, do and try new things, and turn my struggle into a life lesson.
I’m known for being Miss Positive Patty and going through a terrible breakup can really deter you from the positive mindset. I knew that if I let my struggle overtake being positive, I would let the breakup win. So what did I do? I worked my ass off helping other people at my previous job, so much that a lot of people in the community started to know my name. One day I got a phone call from a company saying they heard about me, and wanted to know if I’d interview for a brand new position they created.
Boom. New job.
I also joined a brand new gym (shout out to Monroe County Crossfit). I was scared and very alone in a new place where everyone already knew each other. Within a few weeks, I had the best and biggest new group of friends.
I started getting creative with my new position, and realized that my job was far bigger than myself. I was helping the community of Rochester, and in the midst of this, I realized I could help even more if I created YHR.
I took a setback of getting a divorce, and turned it into a massive comeback where I can now help others. Terrible things happen to great people. It sucks, but these terrible things cause you to change and grow.
Maybe you just got laid off. Maybe you just ended your relationship. Maybe someone close to you passed away recently. These things suck really badly, but how you grow and change from these events are what make you stronger and more resilient.
On this Thanksgiving weekend, I’m thankful for my struggles through life because they turned me into the person I am today. Without them, I wouldn’t be here helping Rochesterians find their careers. I wouldn’t have the group of friends I have today. I wouldn’t have the job I have today. I wouldn’t have a lot of things I have today without my struggle.
Be thankful for your struggle. Turn your setback into a comeback. If I can do it, so can you.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone.